Superwoman is a powerful, beautiful superhero with a rocking body. I am not superwoman. I do not have super powers or the ability to fight bad guys while wearing heels. Where am I going with this?
Haven’t you heard people say things like “you do so much you are like superwoman!” I have. It’s a playful term for someone to say when they notice how much another woman juggles in her day to day. I’ve said it to others too in admiration of what ‘appears’ to be someone that has it all together. Let’s be truthful. No one feels like superwoman when they are going in ten different directions each day. How together does this sound? Unfolded laundry, a to-do list that’s never done, and that workout you promised yourself you would squeeze in, you bought your children their dinner from a gas station (yep)…and this goes on and on.
Add being a mom to a woman’s role and your even less likely to feel like superwoman. I don’t make the best dinners. I don’t force the veggies (these little people can break you down!). I’m not so sure my youngest has clean clothes on today and I’m so tired of cleaning around the toilets. Here’s the big thing I know about myself- I’m not good at the very hard job of being a stay at home mom. I’ve done it and I have plenty of days and breaks when I’m home BUT ongoing is not for me. I like working and doing what fills me up creatively. I add working mom outside the home to my list and I’m closer to wearing underoos than a superwoman cape.
I’ve always been goal oriented and very driven and I like that my boys see that part in me with my design work. It’s also my desire to contribute financially to the household and it gives me a sense of independence and confidence. It’s just my thing. I’m still at the bus stop and I’m driving to soccer practice and I’m checking emails in carpool. It’s a little circus scenario at times but the imperfections are completely fine with me. I also know that my desires or family needs could all change, and they are my priority.
That leads me to this. We all have a daily balancing act as women and likely never feel like superwoman. Let’s mix in those hard life moments we experience into our day to day tasks. These bumps in the road can turn us upside down, inside out, and make regular daily tasks seem out of control. This is where the superhero comes in. The daily task and juggling can’t stop–well, maybe they can be altered, delayed, or passed on to someone else. Sometimes the superhero is you, and sometimes we need a superhero.
I’ve had many life moments that changed my direction, my thoughts, my desires, and my needs. I shared just one directional shift here My Journey Began with Fear. Bumps can sure feel like mountains. I know how it feels when you’ve got momentum going and the chain falls off your bike and you’ve got to shift gears. One year ago I had a leg cramp that wouldn’t go away. My inner voice (speaks beautiful Italian btw) was loud and I knew I needed to go to the doctor. They found a blood clot in my leg and put the fear in me about the seriousness of this. I administered shots in my stomach and took blood thinners and tried to not get injured. I had to wear a beautiful compression sock for one year. It’s been a year. During that same time my son had some intestinal pain and my fears briefly went back to his previous health history. He’s good, I’m good. Bumps can be the future driver of new things, good things.
Here’s a little thought I shared on Facebook:
Open permission to reinvent or restart at any time! We’re not boxed in. Whether it’s choices we control or those life moments we can’t control – we sure learn, evolve, and become our better-best self. All in time. Dancing and a little laughter are musts too.
So, to all perfectly imperfect women with juggling acts and wearing many hats you are superheroes. Superwoman has nothing on you.
I live a beautiful life. I am a mother, a wife, a daughter, a sister, and a good friend. I’m so grateful.
Enjoy your Mother’s Day!